We can often get an understanding of how people experience the world by the way they re-present this information in their Language (the words they choose to communicate).
Q: How is this possible, How can we tell so much from a person with an offhand comment or statement.
A: People translate their interpretation of an experience through their preference and most related sense of communication and add their own ideas of Beliefs Values and experiences to the mix.
People often communicate in ways that they believe are absolutes such as:
"EVERYONE KNOWS MARRIAGE IS FOREVER"
"EVERYONE LOVES GETTING PRESENTS"
"WE ALL KNOW WHAT HE/SHE IS THINKING"
"IT ALWAYS TAKES AGES TO GET HOME IN RUSH HOUR TRAFFIC"
These are Translations of the Speakers experiences and not Everyones way of understanding these experiences. In other words this is their own "Map of the world"
These are examples of Generalizations that can be Extreme at times depending on our own Values, such as:
"ALL PEOPLE ARE SINNERS"
"A GOOD MAN IS HARD TO FIND"
"IF YOU DON'T SAVE YOU WILL HAVE NOTHING TO FALL BACK ON"
"FAT PEOPLE ARE LAZY"
"RICH PEOPLE ARE LUCKY"
In many cases the people using these statements have been influenced in their own experience to believe these statements to be unquestionable.
And can possibly get upset when Challenged about their beliefs.
Beliefs can become entangled with a persons Identity at times especially when many in their peer group share their same beliefs and reinforce them regularly.
This can happens in:
* FAMILIES
* ORGANIZATIONS
* RELIGIONS
* PEER GROUPS
* FRATERNITIES
* CULTURAL ENVIRONMENTS
To Challenge a persons Beliefs can leave them in a state of confusion they may then consider everything they know to be true is untrue and feel uncertain about their life.
This can often lead to arguments and anger if a person is determined to protect their Values and Beliefs, they may not be "open" to new ideas which feel uncomfortable and unfamiliar.
* When Beliefs and Values are challenged, there is an ecological way of doing this in neuro linguistic programming which we will discuss at a later date.
Our Communication is influenced By other factors too such as:
EXTERNAL INFORMATION
Our Family, Religious, Cultural, Socially appropriate Beliefs
SENSORY FILTERS
Submodalities In NLP a person will usually refer to 3 or more of these Senses in a particular order more often, even if using all 5 Submodalities VAK = Visual /Auditory / Kinesthetic are used most often.
* Auditary (Hearing and Speaking)
* Visual (Seeing)
* Kinesthetic (Feeling and Feelings)
* Olfactory (Smelling experiences)
* Gustatory (Tasting experiences)
When we verbalize these representations we call them predicates.
Internal Filters
What our interpretation of these events mean to us.
REPRESENTATION
How we use our Submodality choices and convert them into the way we store this information.
TRANSDERIVATIONAL SEARCH
How we then recall this information, digging into our unconscious mind, what it reminds us of and what else it connects to within us in our realm of experiences and processing.
FILTERED INTERNAL REPRESENTATION
Conclusions getting ready to communicate to the world after processing, now using our submodalities, Values, Beliefs, Deletions, Distortions to piece together "the story"
FEEDBACK
Explaining through our verbal and non Verbal communication our Take on the information after our own processing = OUR MAP OF THE WORLD
It is not surprising when we consider these processes that we can all have "different takes" (EXAMPLE OF KINESTHETIC PREDICATE) on the same experience.
Different things in the experience are more amplified to different people and so they may "focus more" (EXAMPLE OF VISUAL PREDICATE) on interpreting these sections of the experience as these "ring a bell" or "resound True" (example of Auditory Predicates) for them.
For now I hope this has been some "food for thought" (OLFACTORY/GUSTATORY PREDICATE) that leaves you with a hunger for more knowledge about NLP (KINESTHETIC /GUSTATORY PREDICATE).
Remember, How we feel Influences our Actions and Behavior Consciously and Unconsciously. We are communicating something even by not communicating (Generalization).
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Our Non Verbal Communication is even more powerful than our words (GENERALIZATION/DELETION/DISTORTION/MINDREAD AND AUDITORY/ KINESTHETIC PREDICATE WRAPPED UP IN A "MAP OF THE WORLD").
Using Deletions Distortions Generalizations and often Mind Reads are common in Communication as we learn more about Language you will begin to notice these Violations more and more in everyday communication.
The objective is not necessarily to Challenge the violation, It is very useful to understand where a person is Coming from, their 'Map of the World" which will help us to learn their experience in processing and ultimately their actions.
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