6 Genuine Reasons Why Opposites Attract Is Not Always A Good Idea

From stupid fairytales we read as kids to the movies we watch now as adults, we have been led to believe that opposites really attract when it comes to romance. Yes, they do. But the part that they conveniently left out is that passion and happiness between such couples do not last very long - and usually peters out with time. And this is something that studies have proven in the recent past. While it is great to casually date a girl who's the complete opposite of you, getting into a serious or long-term relationship with her might not be such a great idea. Here are six undeniable reasons why.
1. Difficult to find things to do together

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People with different personalities often have different interests and habits that 'never the twain shall meet'. For instance, if your partner enjoys just lying and doing nothing on vacations, while you cannot wait to go exploring a new place - you can see how troublesome it becomes even when you take a holiday together. While going out for a movie together, you have trouble narrowing down one film because they enjoy romantic dramas while you're more of an action thriller person. You can see where this is going.
2. Completely different reactions to the same things

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If your partner is the polar opposite of you, their reactions to things might also be completely different from yours - and when it comes to important matters, you might feel totally out of sync with her as a couple. If you are a happy-go-lucky fellow with a cynical girl, you might want to whoop in joy at some good news - and her pragmatic and skeptical approach can be quite the buzz kill.
3. Always argue about little things

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When you start out on a relationship with a person of an opposite personality, you might feel that petty things like difference of opinions and choices do not matter. But these petty things themselves become annoying reasons for silly arguments later on. Of course you will see each other's points of view, but not always. And then it's downhill from there.
4. Have to work harder than others to connect

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If both of you have completely different personalities, you will need to make more efforts than the usual couple to make your relationship work - because you and your partner clearly operate on different levels. Keeping romance alive was never an easy task; and if you choose a partner who's your complete opposite, you're going to find it out the hard way.
5. Tired of always having to compromise

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While the best way for couples with opposite personalities is to meet each other halfway - compromises at every level can get pretty frustrating, leading to resentment and a sense of suffocation. This is never a healthy sign for any relationship and the last thing you want to experience is regret. In hindsight, it will seem so much simpler to have dated someone with similar likes and personalities.
6. Old habits die hard

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The biggest lie we tell ourselves when we start dating is that the annoying habits in us or our partners will change in time. If your girl's a pessimist, you think that being with you will now slowly wean her from such a personality. If she couldn't change herself in her 20 years or so, what makes you think being with you will do it? People do change - superficial habits like smoking, or lying. But you can never change the core of their being - and telling yourself that things will change is just lying to yourself and being in denial.

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