The second thing that you could do is chalk out a list of qualities that you genuinely dislike in a person. Yes I am not joking! Dislikes are just as important, or even more important than likes. We all have to make compromises here and there, but if we start away by condoning things, which we genuinely dislike, it is going to tell on the relationship at sometime or the other.
I would like to give a word of caution over here. A lot of people make a mistake when they are courting. They put up their best behavior, which is very good of course, but they try to be very adjusting and accommodating which is NOT very good.
A point that they tend to over look is that they are not going to be going on a camping trip with this person that they are trying to impress; they are going to be living the rest of their lives with the person.
So it is best not to be very "oh so very accommodating and adjusting."
You can afford to stick to things that you are very particular about. And if you have any thoughts that you will be able to mold the person out of his or her offending habits at a later date, forget it.
The moment you start trying to mold or cajole the person out of his or her habits, whatever they may be, the word becomes 'nagging' and if at all the person does drop the habit, he or she will love you less for it.
It really DOESN'T work that way. So it's best to have a clear idea about qualities and habits that you genuinely dislike in a person and steer clear of the 'lesser mortals' who have those habits.
Once you have a fairly clear idea about your likes and dislikes you are in a better position to make the right choice. And considering the multitude of people out there, you do not have to worry or be over anxious that you just might not find any one at all. He or she is out there, and if you are doing what you are doing right, namely barking up the right tree you will succeed.
There are some people who even believe that every thing is ordained. It has been written down who should marry who and in the end only that which should happen will happen. Well, I don't know about that, but I do know that dating helps speed up the process.
Another thing that you could do is that you could just let nature take its course. Oh nature has its wonderful ways. There is a lot of chemistry involved in the selection of partner so maybe the best thing we could do is lend nature a helping hand and have a list of what we like and dislike in a romantic partner.
Credit: art-of-kisses.blogspot.com
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